Sunday, July 14, 2013

In her shoes...

He's lovingly gazing in her eyes, his hand holding hers. They are in an exchange you can not hear. You can tell just by seeing it with your eyes, he adores her.

You've been warned, the first time you see your son with your ex's wife will sting like no other. You thought before that very moment he could love no other the way he does you. Then you see it. 

Your world shatters in a way you didn't know was possible. It feels like you've been replaced. Having now been on both sides of the fence, I can honestly tell you that you haven't. 

There is always the every day mom and then the fun mom. Every day mom, holds her baby(s) when they are sick. She washes their clothes, makes them countless meals, cleaning up after every one.  She goes to practices and games, because she wants her child to feel loved, even if she doesn't know a thing about the game. She rubs funky feet, she cuddles on the couch. She wipes tears that others have created. 

Every day mom slipped in a pair of shoes that were too small and uncomfortable, she's breaking the mold. She's defining a new level to what mom really means. Her  baby(s) might not appreciate every day mom until later in life but she keeps on trucking. She's willing to fight the fight to show them, Love conquers all!

Fun mom, only has to be a parent when it's fun or convenient. There's not a whole lot I can tell you about fun mom, because I've always been every day mom. I've only sat on one side of the fence on that one.

What I can tell you is that eventually love does conquer all, and how you see that unfold between the two moms is a choice you have to make.  Every day mom will hold firm and steady, because one day even in the presence of fun mom  her hand will be held. It's a huge statement that every day mom is a source of comfort that fun can never replace.